How are you, bloggy? I hope you are well and safe.
Anyway, i hope reading will be one habit that my future children have, because reading really give us both excitement and knowledge at the same time. During elementary and high school (up until know), i read so so so so many fiction books either from school library or book rental (no online book back then). Finally at college, i start to read non fiction books.
Reading non fiction books gives different thrill and excitement than those butterflies in your tummy when reading romance fiction novel. This excitement mostly comes due to those "relatable moment" feeling. --"Relatabe moment" feeling adalah ketika kita merasa.. "Ih bener banget", "oh, iya juga ya", dan lain lainnya.-- And it also works with following lines from Men from mars, women from venus by J. Gray..
credit: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. John Gray
When i came to think about what empower me the most, i could not find the proper term, until i find this line: feeling of cherished.
This is so truu.
I Feel cherished.
When people do things to appreciate me, or
When people do things to support me, or
When people do things to get to know me, or
When people do things to love me
IMO, do things are equal with making an effort
And it turns out, that the book tell me the same. It shows us how Martiaans' effort (coming across the universe to meet Venusiaan) could motivate, empower and lift Venusiaans' depression.
So, here's the thing:
it is not a matter whether it is big or small,
it is more simple,
it is just about a presence or absence of the effort.
Let say, in this context, one example of an effort is giving appreciation words.
No wonder, i feel so moved when people was saying to me that he/she was so thankful after seeing and talking to me. I feel so appreciated then i feel motivated to be a better person.
Before i read this book, i still think that giving appreciation words is one of the best way to motivate people and always be an uber big thing to most of people, but then i realized that i could not generalize this matter, because it turns out that --based on the book-- Martiaans may prefer or need other feeling: feel needed.
So, you guys martiaans, do you prefer to feel needed or to feel cherished too?
please comment below if you are martiaans :)
Anyway, i was triggered to make this post because of Ibu ibu warung didepan kosanku.
Ibunya told me, how she was sorry and thankful to make me always listen to her story (beli jajan di warung jadi bisa se biru ini:")), she said it was because she doesnot have children so she tend to find people/buyer who can listen to her.
For me, what i did was just listening her story and giving little response, that simple. But, it turns out that, my little effort means something for her :"). My effort to listen to her motivates her, meanwhile her feedback to appreciate me also motivates me.
Life is so nice.
